When we think about health and wellness, what usually comes to mind is nutrition, exercise, sleep, or some other tangible metric. But what about love? In Episode #273, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki to hear her insights on the power of a healthy relationship.
“The quality of your love life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationship with yourself.”
Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, author, and host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Fuelled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands over the last 20 years through her teachings and writing to revolutionise their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others.
“I think that a healthy relationship – one filled with love, respect, and loyalty – is very good for our physical health. But a bad relationship will destroy it.”
As we discuss in this episode, most of us won’t feel like our lives are completely full unless we are in love with someone. But what does it take to build a healthy, fulfilling relationship? This conversation speaks to the importance of relationships and self-worth for our overall health, drawing a connection between our physical wellbeing and our connection with others.
Learn about how your self-worth affects your relationships, and how building a relationship with yourself can make you a better partner. Jillian shares her advice on being discerning when choosing a partner, balancing your needs with your significant other’s, and much more wisdom that you’ll find valuable.
We discuss a wide suite of recurring themes in modern relationships, from situationships and red flags to sexual chemistry, the impact of pornography, and knowing when to leave a relationship.
Specifically, we cover:
- Intro (00:00)
- Quality of self-love = quality of love life (2:25)
- Red flags, compatibility, and being “perfect” (7:50)
- Self-worth and personal responsibility (15:49)
- Practices for nurturing self-love (24:45)
- Confidence is key (29:41)
- Dating and more red flags (36:46)
- Societal pressures (45:15)
- Lust and love (51:48)
- Romantic relationship and loneliness (54:55)
- What about getting dates in the first place? (59:04)
- Honesty is king (1:08:56)
- Declining of marriage rates (1:12:21)
- Lasting love amidst flaws and imperfections (1:16:38)
- Attachment styles (1:21:20)
- Foundation of a successful relationship (1:28:14)
- Supportive relationship, sex, and stress (1:31:33)\
- Porn (1:37:33)
- Communication mistakes and benefits of therapy (1:42:44)
- Monogamy and ‘alternative’ relationships (1:54:13)
- Why happy relationships lead to longer, healthier lives (2:01:05)
- Jillian on marriage and motherhood (2:03:56)
- Outro (2:05:04)
From advice on how to find a partner to differentiating love from lust, Jillian brings a wealth of insight to this conversation. Whether you’re looking to find a partner, are currently in a relationship, or simply want to improve yourself, you’ll find Jillian’s perspective enlightening and exciting.
Connect with Jillian Turecki on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok. Visit Jillian’s website to discover more about her work and discover her courses. Make sure to also check out her podcast, Jillian On Love.
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Enjoy, friends.
Simon
More about Jillian Turecki
Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, author, and host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Fuelled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands over the last 20 years through her teachings and writing to revolutionise their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching, teaching, and writing.
