Love isn’t just a feeling – it’s a skill. In Episode #348, I sit down with relationship coach and author Jillian Turecki to explore how to cultivate and sustain meaningful love. Whether you’re navigating a new relationship or looking to strengthen an existing one, this conversation offers invaluable tools for deepening connection and overcoming challenges. Together, we discuss the mindsets and habits that help love thrive and the practical steps you can take to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
“Love isn’t just a feeling – it’s an intentional practice, a daily ritual, a verb.”
Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship coach, teacher, author, and host of the podcast Jillian On Love. With over 20 years of experience, Jillian has helped thousands revolutionise their relationship with themselves and others through her teachings, courses, and writing. Known for her compassionate and direct approach, Jillian is deeply committed to helping people transform their romantic relationships and discover what it takes to make love work.
“Conflict repair is really everything. That’s how two people grow together in a relationship.”
In this episode, we examine the foundational elements of love and relationships. You’ll learn how self-esteem influences your ability to connect, why conflict resolution is essential for growth, and how to determine if a relationship is worth fighting for.
We also explore the concept of compatibility, the importance of communication, and actionable advice for navigating challenges while keeping the flame alive. This episode is filled with insights to help you at every stage of your relationship journey.
Specifically, we cover:
- Love is a daily practice: How can we build it? (0:00)
- Understanding relationship breakdowns (8:18)
- How self-love shapes relationships (11:06)
- Challenges of loving ourselves (16:18)
- How to navigate conflict effectively (34:51)
- Addressing commitment and anxiety in love (40:00)
- When should you discuss your needs in a relationship? (43:44)
- The difference between connection and relationship (46:54)
- How to master conflict repair (49:48)
- Giving effective feedback in relationships (52:52)
- How to know when it’s time to leave (1:03:25)
- The rewards of a healthy relationship (1:09:45)
- Outro (1:14:50)
Thank you to Jillian for sharing her expertise and heartfelt advice in this episode; I appreciate her insights into an often-overlooked aspect of wellbeing. If you enjoyed this conversation, don’t miss her previous appearance in Episode #273, and share this episode with someone who might benefit from it.
Jillian Turecki’s book, It Begins With You, is available here. Connect with her on Instagram, Twitter/X, and TikTok. Learn more about Jillian and discover her courses at https://www.jillianturecki.com/.
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More about Jillian Turecki
Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship coach, teacher, author, and host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Fuelled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands over the last 20 years through her teachings, courses, and writing to revolutionise their relationship with themselves so that they transform their romantic relationships. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching, teaching and writing.
